Monday, December 28, 2009

The Rest of the Story: Zacharie Christian

A number of you have asked for follow-up information on how Zacharie fared after his little ambulance excursion to another hospital. Others of you haven’t even heard about all the extra excitement that accompanied Zacharie’s birth and his first 36 hours of life. So I will use this opportunity to catch you up on all that has transpired, as well as to tell you how the Lord ministered to us as a family and to me personally during those moments of uncertainty.

On Tuesday, December 15, I was becoming more certain that the birth of our third child was imminent. I had experienced some contractions on the previous Sunday that I had thought might be the onset of labor, but then things had settled down again on Monday, my first day of exams at the university. Even as the labor activity gradually began to increase after Tuesday morning’s exam, we continued with all our other week’s activities, thinking it was useless to stop everything until we knew for sure if the time had come. Tim was busy doing quite a bit of running around from bank to government office, back to bank, etc., trying to get things in order for the purchase of a van. Through all the busyness of recent weeks, we had talked frequently of going into downtown Bordeaux to visit the annual Christmas market, something of which I have fond memories from years gone by and which I didn’t want to miss during this year’s season. That evening being our first free night on which we could have considered it (and, I admit—I was wondering if it might be our last opportunity for this year, as well), we decided to bundle up and take the tram into town. The evening was enjoyable. We didn’t stay long, just long enough to enjoy some of the sights, sounds and smells of Christmas in the city. The contractions did increase in intensity as we walked, but were still quite manageable that entire time. We arrived back at home around 8:30, right at the kids’ bedtime.

By 9 p.m. the contractions were much more frequent and harder to bear, and it seemed that our trip to the hospital was imminent. After passing another few hours at home making final preparations for the children at home and for our hospital stay, we finally left for the hospital sometime after 12:30 on Wednesday morning. The short drive to the hospital was so intense for me that Tim was actually stopping the car for every contraction to try to make the pain less difficult to endure. I was certain that I must be entering the final stage of labor and was remembering all the stories I had ever heard about babies being born in cars, in parking lots, etc., when we arrived at the hospital a few minutes before 1 a.m. on Wednesday, December 16.

On a side note, it has been interesting to compare the differences between French and American hospitals when it comes to delivering babies. Neither one exactly fits into a neat, little stereotype. Each one just has its own peculiarities of strictness. With the births of my other two children, I was immediately seated in a wheelchair when I checked in at the front desk and ushered by a hospital staff member up to the maternity floor. This time, when I really could have used the wheelchair, none was offered! But it was a small hospital (a private clinic, actually), and I am grateful to say there was an elevator! ;)

I was led to some sort of a triage room on the same hallway as the delivery rooms for the hospital midwives to assess my state. The midwife that checked me in told me that I had not advanced as much as I had anticipated. That pronouncement was certainly not the end of the story, however, as within another 10 minutes or so I was holding little Zacharie Christian in my arms, never having made it to the delivery room and having yet to see my doctor! All in all, I only spent about 20 minutes at the hospital before Zacharie was born at 1:09 a.m. (It was Tim’s watch that served us the official time, as everything was too hurried-scurried for the nurses to follow their normal routine.) Tim and I sat there for the next few minutes, waiting for the hospital staff to catch up on all their other duties before finishing up with us, and just marveling at how the Lord had worked out everything in relationship to this birth.

It does seem, however, that there were some consequences that Zacharie had to bear because of his rapid delivery. For his first several hours of breathing the outside air, he made a funny, wheezing sound with every breath he drew. I asked the pediatrician about the noise when he came in to examine him about 9 a.m., when Zacharie was 8 hours old. The pediatrician assured me that that noise was quite normal, particularly for a baby who had been through a rapid delivery and may therefore have had some extra fluid in his lungs that had not yet been able to drain out. He expected that the noise would lessen and Zacharie would begin breathing more easily as the day went on. His response put me completely at ease, and I didn’t worry any more about the noisy breathing, until another nurse came in to check on Zacharie a few hours later who was very disturbed by his breathing. She unbuttoned his outfit (no small task, since he was dressed in about four different layers—that’s another part of the French way that was different for me! ;-) and showed me how his chest was heaving. She said she wanted to take him to the nursery for a few hours, placing him in the incubator for more constant surveillance. Again, I didn’t really worry, since she assured me that this measure was just to be sure he was OK, and that she would probably be bringing him back to me in a couple of hours. I sent Tim a text message with the update, as he was at McDonald’s at that moment with our other kids who were on lunch break from school. After Tim returned Micaiah and Miriam to school and came back to the hospital about an hour later, we walked down the hallway together to the nursery to see our newborn son. At this point, the same, kind nurse who had taken him back for observation informed us that Zacharie’s breathing really didn’t seem to be getting any better—in fact, it was worse. She had called the pediatrician to come and he had ordered a series of blood tests to check for infection. Thus—almost imperceptibly—began my worrying.

That afternoon was filled with several more hours of little visits to the nursery like that, with a few more meetings with the pediatrician and the nurse, but with little more information given other than the fact that Zacharie’s breathing was not improving as they had thought it should, and therefore the pediatrician wanted to send him to another hospital which was better equipped to deal with newborn health issues such as this. They continually assured us that whatever the source, the problem was most likely not a serious one, but given Zacharie’s young age they wanted to figure out what was causing the respiratory distress immediately so that they could begin the proper treatment. Even though I did take heart from those repeated assurances, it was still very difficult to watch my little baby struggle to breathe within my sight and yet just out of my reach, and to know that in a few short hours he would be taken out of my sight as well, taken somewhere where I couldn’t follow. The crew of five ambulance personnel that came a few hours later to transfer Zacharie was very kind, but also somewhat intimidating in all its gear and with all the various heart and oxygen monitors they taped all over Zacharie’s little body.

Little did we realize when we chose the name Zacharie (meaning, “Yahweh remembers”) just how quickly his name would take on even more significance for us. During those 18 hours of “enforced quiet time” (I was in the hospital after having had my baby but had no baby to care for!), I did have a lot of time to meditate on what God was doing, a privilege rarely granted to a mom in the hours just after she gives birth. I also listened to several sermons and was able to do some reading and meditating on Scriptures like Isaiah 62:6-7: “You who remind the LORD [zachar], take no rest for yourselves and give Him no rest until He establishes Jerusalem and makes it a praise in the earth.”

I wrote this in my journal on the second morning of my hospital stay, just a few hours before Zacharie was returned to me:

God has used these last 24 hours to remind me of my need to remind Him¸ and has so encouraged me in illustrating the fact that, truly, “Yahweh remembers”. My heart is full as I have just this morning been told that my precious little Zacharie seems to be doing much better and should soon be returned to me. Layton Talbert (in a sermon found here) says that what Isaiah 62:6-7 is saying is this: “You who are reminding the LORD, give Him no rest until He fulfills that which He has promised!” God wants me to ask!!!


The end of the Zacharie story is that an x-ray showed no fluid trapped in his lungs, which could have required a procedure under general anesthesia to drain, and multiple blood tests revealed no sort of infection, which would have required antibiotics. As that second night wore on, Zacharie’s breathing gradually improved to the point that the medical personnel at the other hospital saw no reason to keep him under surveillance any longer. Thus, at 36 hours old, my baby was returned to me, and we were able to pick right up where we left off.

So when people have asked what the original problem was, the answer is we really don’t know exactly. The best human explanation we have been given is that the problem was somehow related to his rapid delivery, and it eventually worked itself out. But on another level, as children of a Heavenly Father who wants His children to ask Him for those things which He has promised, I’m sure you can affirm with me that the ultimate answer is: “Yahweh remembers.” We are grateful for this vivid illustration in our lives, grateful for you who have beseeched Yahweh along with us, and are already seeking to apply that which we have learned to every category of life as issues arise (such as our present housing need in which we are waiting to see how God will work).

And as you can imagine, we were especially grateful to have our whole family—all five of us—together at home last week to celebrate the wonder of an even more amazing birth, that of our dear Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.











Thursday, December 24, 2009

Merry Christmas from our family to yours

Having a newborn in the home at Christmas time
has made the incarnation much more real and realistic to us.
We are so thankful that
Christ the Lord, Creator and Sustainer of the universe,
humbled Himself to become a man,
that we might have eternal life.

We would like to wish all our family and friends a very, merry Christmas.
May we all honor Christ in our celebrations.

Timothy, Ruth Renée, Micaiah (Michée), Miriam and Zacharie BIXBY

Christmas Sunday

God blessed us with a good Christmas Sunday. I had most of the day off. Since Zacharie was only four days old, and I had spent the second part of the week running between school, home and hospital, one of the men in the church preached for me. I enjoyed listening to a well-prepared, well-delivered sermon on the wise men from Matthew 2.

Zacharie Christian had just returned from the hospital the day before. So a highlight for us was being able to show him off to all of our church family.




Following the service we enjoyed a delicious Christmas dinner. After a salad entrée, we had pork roast with a peach and chestnut sauce.




We always enjoy eating together.



Following the meal, we had a Christmas sing and the children performed a couple of Christmas songs for us. We then had a farewell service and party for Fernando, a student who had been in the church for six years. He just received his Ph.D. last week and flew back to his home country of Panama a few days later. We will really miss him.

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Birth Announcement


Why did we name him "Zacharie Christian"?

Zacharie is the French form of the Prophet Zechariah and the priest Zacharias. Being the father of John the Baptist, he plays an important role in the nativity story which we celebrate at this time of year. More importantly, his name means “God remembers,” and Zacharias stands as a testimony (even through his imperfection) of God fulfilling His promises in response to His peoples’ prayers. There is a good sermon by Layton Talbert preached at Cleveland Park Bible Church (“Providence and Prayer”, available on sermonaudio.com) that made this meaningful to us.

Christian is a name we have like for quite some time. It is very French and also very, what can we say, Christian. The French name book says it once was a genuine statement of one’s faith. In the first century, believers in Antioch were dubbed "Christians" by unbelievers because of their constant verbal witness to Jesus Christ. The name also reminds us of the character in Pilgrim’s Progress, in whose steps we hope our son will follow along the same journey.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Zacharie Christian Bixby


Zacharie Christian Bixby was born on December 16 at 1:09am. He arrived, by God’s grace, safely and in good health, less than 20 minutes after we arrived at the hospital. He was born in a regular hospital bed before they had time to wheel Ruth down to the birthing room, before the doctor arrived, and yes, before the midwife had time to put on her gloves.

Christian is a name we have like for quite some time. It is very French and also very, what can I say, Christian. The French name book says it once was a genuine statement of a family's faith faith. We want it to be such for ours. It also reminds us of the character in Pilgrim’s Progress, who we hope our son will follow in the same journey.

Zacharie is the French form of the Prophet Zechariah and the priest Zacharias. Being the father of John the Baptist, he plays an important role in the nativity story which we celebrate at this time of year. More importantly, his name means “God remembers,” and he stands as a testimony (even through his imperfection) of God fulfilling His promises in response to His peoples’ prayers. There is a good sermon by Layton Talbert that he preached at CPBC (“Providence and Prayer” available on sermonaudio.com) that made this meaningful to us.

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Our Student Christmas Party



We had a great time last night with our students and nine first-time visitors, plus several others who have come once or twice but not often. We were all pleasantly surprised by the turnout (41 in all), and grateful to the Lord for the evangelistic opportunity. We learned that for at least a couple of these visitors, it may have been their first-ever exposure to the Gospel. Several of the students of our church demonstrated their servants' hearts by the work they put into the meal and the other preparations. Please pray that God would allow the contacts we made last night to blossom into further Gospel opportunities.


Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Orchestra Practice

For the last few weeks, Ruth has been leading a small orchestra in preparation for Christmas. We may not be the biggest or the best, but it has been a way to improve the talents God has blessed us with and use them for His glory.

Christmas Ladies' Meeting


Last Saturday, the ladies enjoyed a special Christmas Bible study and fellowship. We thank God for the ladies here who have a genuine desire to grow in godliness.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Hospitality

We've been enjoying living in my parents home that sits on the floor above the church auditorium. The excellent location and spacious accommodations make it ideal for hosting people in the home. Here are a few friends that we've been able to have in our home recently.

Thanksgiving
Since we had school as usual on Thanksgiving day, we invited some friends over on the day before for a Thanksgiving feast. Nine months of pregnancy and a morning full of classes did not prevent Ruth from spreading out a feast. Present were friends from France, Germany, Belgium and Canada. The girl on the chair had been hit the day before (while riding her bike). She was thrown onto the hood of the car and then onto the windshield which she broke. Though she had no broken bones, she had a lot of sore muscles. We all had a lot for which to give thanks.



The Christmas Season
Ruth and the children had another mom and her children from the church come over Wednesday afternoon to help them decorate the Christmas tree. I set it up for them, but then had to leave before the party got under way. The children had fun. However, the adults had to come back later and rearrange things a bit to fit their own sense of symmetry!



Puerto Rican Dinner
Tonight we had the mother of one of Micaiah's classmates over for supper. We pick up her son once a week from school and help him with his homework. She came to say thank you by fixing us a traditional meal from her homeland. Though I was somewhat skeptical beforehand, I can honestly say that this was the first time I've genuinely enjoyed eating plantains. Even our children were sold on them: "They taste like french fries!"





May God help us all to make our homes not only a place to turn inward as a shelter from the evil world, but a center from which to minister outward.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Weekend visit


This weekend we enjoyed a visit with the Désilles family: Matthieu, Jeanine, their nearly 2-year-old son Jonathan and their 3-month-old daughter Esther. We remember the first time Matthieu came to this church. It was in December of 2000, less than a year after he was converted. Ruth and I were here in France at the time, and I was serving as replacement pastor for my father (much like we are now). Matthieu had heard about our church through a friend and came for the first time to a Friday night student meeting.

Soon Matthieu became a part of this church and then felt the call to pastor. He moved to Paris to train for the ministry. It was during a visit back to the Bordeaux region that he met Jeanine for the first time here at the church.

It was no coup de foudre (lit., lighting bolt; i.e., love at first sight). Jeanine wasn’t impressed and didn’t like his manners. But grace prevailed, as has been evidenced by the sweet family of four they have become today. They are presently seeking God’s desire for their future ministry as they consider two different churches that are in need of a pastor.

Matthieu and Jeanine are trophies of God’s grace and proof that God is at work in France. It is such an encouragement to see God raise up Frenchmen for the work of the ministry. Sadly, there are very few like them. Please pray for their tribe to increase.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Church Retreat 2009

For many years, the three sister churches in the Bordeaux region have held an annual weekend retreat during the "Toussaint" (all saints) holiday. This year, as before, it was held at Le Château de Peyreguilhot. Though we had some difficulty figuring out how to transport everybody from the bustling city of Bordeaux to the countryside château one and a half hours away (only one of the university students in our church has a car), the break from city life was nice for all of us.

It was a busy but very good weekend, beginning with supper on Friday and ending late Sunday afternoon. Our speaker was a French pastor from the Paris region. I haven't spoken with very many others from our church yet, but those I've seen since the retreat have all been very positive about the weekend. One couple that has been attending church for only a few weeks asked why we only had one retreat per year! A student told us she had "finally found a family." Another student told me of a very helpful conversation he had had at the dinner table concerning his own salvation. It started when one of our other students spontaneously asked him "where he was with God." He recounted how when he had expressed his doubts, several others participated in the conversation with helpful input.

Thank you for praying. Please pray that spiritual fruit will remain and grow. Following is a picture slideshow of our weekend.


To view the slideshow in a larger format click here.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Sights of City Life

Last Saturday our family headed into downtown Bordeaux for a time of street evangelisation organized by one of the two other sister churches in the region. We were able to distribute a good bit of literature and had several profitable conversations. A couple memorable comments we received were: “Long live la Saint-Barthélemy!” --a reference to the massacre of French Protestants by Catholics in 1572 (intended negatively); and “You and Obama, both coming back to help the Europeans!” (intended positively).

Unfortunately, we can't share the sounds or smells, nor do we have pictures of the conversations we were involved in. But here are a few shots we took to give you an idea of what the city is like.

The city square where we met (the collage below shows only one side) has stood here since before Columbus sailed the ocean blue. The cathedral (St. André) was consecrated by Pope Uban II in 1096. In 1137, the 15-year-old Eleanor of Aquitaine married the soon-to-be Louis VII in this cathedral. (It has been around a long time.)




We saw pigeons.



We saw people dressed in many different colors and styles.



We saw guys showing off their roller-blading skills and others ignoring them.



We saw clowns.



We saw Florent, the pastor of a sister Baptist church on Bordeaux's right bank in a discussion with someone about the Gospel.



We saw a whole lot of people crammed onto the tram which we rode in and back out of the city.



We saw Rue Sainte-Catherine at Place de la Victoire.



We saw South American Indians (at least, we think they were South American Indians) singing, dancing -- and selling their CDs.


All in all, pretty typical for a trip into town.

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Sunday School


Our fall Sunday school rotation has begun. After our fellowship meal, we have our Sunday school hour at 2pm. There are two adult classes. One is taught by Lala downstairs in the church room. David teaches the other one around the table in the dining room upstairs. There are also two children’s classes (one not pictured) and the teen class. Tim is teaching the teen class on the major gifts given to us in the Gospel.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Getting to know more people in France

We enjoyed two opportunities to host people in our home this week. Francois has just arrived from Taiwan to study here for a year. Tim picked him up at the airport on Wednesday, and then we enjoyed breakfast with him and Wilfried, one of our "regulars" at church who helped Francois to find an apartment and has really done a lot to help him get settled in. We have two other new students from Germany who have just arrived in Bordeaux to begin their programs, and who are already beginning to get involved in our church life, attending our church meetings and helping out with the distribution that is still underway. Please keep praying for visitors to come as a result of the church invitations/tracts that have been distributed in three more dormitory villages.

Today we enjoyed lunch with Priscilla, who has been attending our church for more than a month, along with Dalice and her son Diego. Dalice and Diego arrived in France just at the end of the summer from Puerto Rico, and Diego is the other non-French child in Micaiah's class. Micaiah and Diego have a great deal of sympathy for one another in their new language setting, even though they also have different mother tongues. We enjoyed getting to know Dalice and Diego more and are looking forward to developing our relationship with them as the school year progresses. Priscilla, who is originally from Mexico, was able to fellowship with Dalice in Spanish.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Nine Years and Counting

I thank God that on September 23, 2000, on a rainy afternoon in Raleigh, North Carolina, Ruth Renée Pahnke said, "I do." I am a better man because of her. I am happy to rise up and praise her (Proverbs 31:28).

Here are the vows we wrote together, memorized and quoted to each other on our wedding day.

I, Timothy, take you, Ruth,

To be my companion and my wife by covenant;

And I do solemnly promise before God and these witnesses

To love you as Christ loved the Church,

Giving Himself for her:

To be your head, even as Christ is the head of the Church,

Leading her, protecting her, and providing for her,

Both materially and spiritually:

To strive by God’s grace and empowerment

To dwell always in harmony with you,

Being patient and kindhearted and humble in spirit,

Not rendering evil for evil, or insult for insult,

But blessing instead;

To dwell with you according to knowledge,

Giving honor unto you as unto a weaker vessel

Whether in plenty or in want,

In health or in sickness,

In joy or in sorrow,

Until God by death shall separate us.



I, Ruth, take you, Timothy,

To be my companion and my husband by covenant;

And I do solemnly promise before God and these witnesses

To reverence and honor you,

As the Church doth reverence and honor Christ as her head,

To submit unto you in all things,

Even as the Church is subject unto Christ,

To strive by God’s grace and empowerment

To dwell always in harmony with you,

To be patient and kindhearted and humble in spirit,

Not rendering evil for evil, or insult for insult,

But blessing instead;

To look well to the ways of our household

In all chastity, meekness and faithfulness,

That I may be one in whom your heart may safely trust

Whether in plenty or in want,

In health or in sickness,

In joy or in sorrow,

Until God by death shall separate us.

Friday, September 18, 2009

The distribution has begun!


Last night (09-18-09) as part of our student evening, eight students and I set out to begin the yearly university distribution. The university-owned dormitories are divided into six "villages." We began with Village 1 and surprised ourselves at how quickly it went. By the time we are finished, we will have slid several thousand invitations under doors or wedged into doorways. Please pray that God will bless these efforts with fruit for His glory.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Invitations are folded

Thanks to the many helping hands, the 9,000 invitations to our church are now folded! We plan to use these invitations in a general student distribution that is done every fall. This coming Friday night, we hope to begin the task of distributing with the students who attend our bi-weekly student meetings. Please pray that God will give us many contacts through this effort.


Evangilizing at Stalingrad

Last Saturday morning (9/12/09) we took the tram and, with another individual from our church, joined a few believers from a sister church on the right bank of the river for about two hours of street evangelism. About six of us sang while another six passed out tracts and sought out gospel conversations. One of the benefits of such open, direct evangelisation is that it helps to liberate you from the fear of people that creeps in naturally over time. We were glad we could sing praises to Jesus Christ in such a public venue and share our love and faith in Christ with those who stopped, talked and took our literature.


Stalingrad is the name of the square that is just over the bridge from the main part of Bordeaux. It serves as a transportation hub for the tram and buses headed east and north.


Friday, September 11, 2009

Tracts in hand

On Wednesday (the children's weekly day off of school) we drove down into the mountainous Basque region of Spain to pick up 9,000 tracts to use for a distribution among the new influx of students to the area. We were graciously hosted for lunch by the Juan Alvarez family. They are Mexican, missionaries sent out from their home country to minister in Spain. They have served as a team with the Andy Bownikowski family for more than 10 years. They are humble, unpretentious and full of wisdom. We had a delightful time with them, sitting around their skinny table in their third-floor apartment, sharing experiences and pegging them with questions. Though both their native land and target field are different from either of ours, we benefitted greatly. We are now hoping they will pay us a visit sometime later in the year.


On the way home, we got off the highway to see some of the sights of the coastline in San Sebastian. The north shore of the Spanish coast is truly beautiful and an eloquent testimony to its Creator. We got home both tired and refreshed ... and with 9,000 tracts that will have to be folded by hand! Anybody want to help?



The Juan Alvarez family


El pollo was mucho fantastico!

The city of San Sebastian

The beautiful coastline of northern Spain




The tracts issue a general invitation to and explanation of the church. They are beautifully printed with the picture of our building on the front to help with visual recognition.