Monday, December 28, 2009

The Rest of the Story: Zacharie Christian

A number of you have asked for follow-up information on how Zacharie fared after his little ambulance excursion to another hospital. Others of you haven’t even heard about all the extra excitement that accompanied Zacharie’s birth and his first 36 hours of life. So I will use this opportunity to catch you up on all that has transpired, as well as to tell you how the Lord ministered to us as a family and to me personally during those moments of uncertainty.

On Tuesday, December 15, I was becoming more certain that the birth of our third child was imminent. I had experienced some contractions on the previous Sunday that I had thought might be the onset of labor, but then things had settled down again on Monday, my first day of exams at the university. Even as the labor activity gradually began to increase after Tuesday morning’s exam, we continued with all our other week’s activities, thinking it was useless to stop everything until we knew for sure if the time had come. Tim was busy doing quite a bit of running around from bank to government office, back to bank, etc., trying to get things in order for the purchase of a van. Through all the busyness of recent weeks, we had talked frequently of going into downtown Bordeaux to visit the annual Christmas market, something of which I have fond memories from years gone by and which I didn’t want to miss during this year’s season. That evening being our first free night on which we could have considered it (and, I admit—I was wondering if it might be our last opportunity for this year, as well), we decided to bundle up and take the tram into town. The evening was enjoyable. We didn’t stay long, just long enough to enjoy some of the sights, sounds and smells of Christmas in the city. The contractions did increase in intensity as we walked, but were still quite manageable that entire time. We arrived back at home around 8:30, right at the kids’ bedtime.

By 9 p.m. the contractions were much more frequent and harder to bear, and it seemed that our trip to the hospital was imminent. After passing another few hours at home making final preparations for the children at home and for our hospital stay, we finally left for the hospital sometime after 12:30 on Wednesday morning. The short drive to the hospital was so intense for me that Tim was actually stopping the car for every contraction to try to make the pain less difficult to endure. I was certain that I must be entering the final stage of labor and was remembering all the stories I had ever heard about babies being born in cars, in parking lots, etc., when we arrived at the hospital a few minutes before 1 a.m. on Wednesday, December 16.

On a side note, it has been interesting to compare the differences between French and American hospitals when it comes to delivering babies. Neither one exactly fits into a neat, little stereotype. Each one just has its own peculiarities of strictness. With the births of my other two children, I was immediately seated in a wheelchair when I checked in at the front desk and ushered by a hospital staff member up to the maternity floor. This time, when I really could have used the wheelchair, none was offered! But it was a small hospital (a private clinic, actually), and I am grateful to say there was an elevator! ;)

I was led to some sort of a triage room on the same hallway as the delivery rooms for the hospital midwives to assess my state. The midwife that checked me in told me that I had not advanced as much as I had anticipated. That pronouncement was certainly not the end of the story, however, as within another 10 minutes or so I was holding little Zacharie Christian in my arms, never having made it to the delivery room and having yet to see my doctor! All in all, I only spent about 20 minutes at the hospital before Zacharie was born at 1:09 a.m. (It was Tim’s watch that served us the official time, as everything was too hurried-scurried for the nurses to follow their normal routine.) Tim and I sat there for the next few minutes, waiting for the hospital staff to catch up on all their other duties before finishing up with us, and just marveling at how the Lord had worked out everything in relationship to this birth.

It does seem, however, that there were some consequences that Zacharie had to bear because of his rapid delivery. For his first several hours of breathing the outside air, he made a funny, wheezing sound with every breath he drew. I asked the pediatrician about the noise when he came in to examine him about 9 a.m., when Zacharie was 8 hours old. The pediatrician assured me that that noise was quite normal, particularly for a baby who had been through a rapid delivery and may therefore have had some extra fluid in his lungs that had not yet been able to drain out. He expected that the noise would lessen and Zacharie would begin breathing more easily as the day went on. His response put me completely at ease, and I didn’t worry any more about the noisy breathing, until another nurse came in to check on Zacharie a few hours later who was very disturbed by his breathing. She unbuttoned his outfit (no small task, since he was dressed in about four different layers—that’s another part of the French way that was different for me! ;-) and showed me how his chest was heaving. She said she wanted to take him to the nursery for a few hours, placing him in the incubator for more constant surveillance. Again, I didn’t really worry, since she assured me that this measure was just to be sure he was OK, and that she would probably be bringing him back to me in a couple of hours. I sent Tim a text message with the update, as he was at McDonald’s at that moment with our other kids who were on lunch break from school. After Tim returned Micaiah and Miriam to school and came back to the hospital about an hour later, we walked down the hallway together to the nursery to see our newborn son. At this point, the same, kind nurse who had taken him back for observation informed us that Zacharie’s breathing really didn’t seem to be getting any better—in fact, it was worse. She had called the pediatrician to come and he had ordered a series of blood tests to check for infection. Thus—almost imperceptibly—began my worrying.

That afternoon was filled with several more hours of little visits to the nursery like that, with a few more meetings with the pediatrician and the nurse, but with little more information given other than the fact that Zacharie’s breathing was not improving as they had thought it should, and therefore the pediatrician wanted to send him to another hospital which was better equipped to deal with newborn health issues such as this. They continually assured us that whatever the source, the problem was most likely not a serious one, but given Zacharie’s young age they wanted to figure out what was causing the respiratory distress immediately so that they could begin the proper treatment. Even though I did take heart from those repeated assurances, it was still very difficult to watch my little baby struggle to breathe within my sight and yet just out of my reach, and to know that in a few short hours he would be taken out of my sight as well, taken somewhere where I couldn’t follow. The crew of five ambulance personnel that came a few hours later to transfer Zacharie was very kind, but also somewhat intimidating in all its gear and with all the various heart and oxygen monitors they taped all over Zacharie’s little body.

Little did we realize when we chose the name Zacharie (meaning, “Yahweh remembers”) just how quickly his name would take on even more significance for us. During those 18 hours of “enforced quiet time” (I was in the hospital after having had my baby but had no baby to care for!), I did have a lot of time to meditate on what God was doing, a privilege rarely granted to a mom in the hours just after she gives birth. I also listened to several sermons and was able to do some reading and meditating on Scriptures like Isaiah 62:6-7: “You who remind the LORD [zachar], take no rest for yourselves and give Him no rest until He establishes Jerusalem and makes it a praise in the earth.”

I wrote this in my journal on the second morning of my hospital stay, just a few hours before Zacharie was returned to me:

God has used these last 24 hours to remind me of my need to remind Him¸ and has so encouraged me in illustrating the fact that, truly, “Yahweh remembers”. My heart is full as I have just this morning been told that my precious little Zacharie seems to be doing much better and should soon be returned to me. Layton Talbert (in a sermon found here) says that what Isaiah 62:6-7 is saying is this: “You who are reminding the LORD, give Him no rest until He fulfills that which He has promised!” God wants me to ask!!!


The end of the Zacharie story is that an x-ray showed no fluid trapped in his lungs, which could have required a procedure under general anesthesia to drain, and multiple blood tests revealed no sort of infection, which would have required antibiotics. As that second night wore on, Zacharie’s breathing gradually improved to the point that the medical personnel at the other hospital saw no reason to keep him under surveillance any longer. Thus, at 36 hours old, my baby was returned to me, and we were able to pick right up where we left off.

So when people have asked what the original problem was, the answer is we really don’t know exactly. The best human explanation we have been given is that the problem was somehow related to his rapid delivery, and it eventually worked itself out. But on another level, as children of a Heavenly Father who wants His children to ask Him for those things which He has promised, I’m sure you can affirm with me that the ultimate answer is: “Yahweh remembers.” We are grateful for this vivid illustration in our lives, grateful for you who have beseeched Yahweh along with us, and are already seeking to apply that which we have learned to every category of life as issues arise (such as our present housing need in which we are waiting to see how God will work).

And as you can imagine, we were especially grateful to have our whole family—all five of us—together at home last week to celebrate the wonder of an even more amazing birth, that of our dear Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.











Thursday, December 24, 2009

Merry Christmas from our family to yours

Having a newborn in the home at Christmas time
has made the incarnation much more real and realistic to us.
We are so thankful that
Christ the Lord, Creator and Sustainer of the universe,
humbled Himself to become a man,
that we might have eternal life.

We would like to wish all our family and friends a very, merry Christmas.
May we all honor Christ in our celebrations.

Timothy, Ruth Renée, Micaiah (Michée), Miriam and Zacharie BIXBY

Christmas Sunday

God blessed us with a good Christmas Sunday. I had most of the day off. Since Zacharie was only four days old, and I had spent the second part of the week running between school, home and hospital, one of the men in the church preached for me. I enjoyed listening to a well-prepared, well-delivered sermon on the wise men from Matthew 2.

Zacharie Christian had just returned from the hospital the day before. So a highlight for us was being able to show him off to all of our church family.




Following the service we enjoyed a delicious Christmas dinner. After a salad entrée, we had pork roast with a peach and chestnut sauce.




We always enjoy eating together.



Following the meal, we had a Christmas sing and the children performed a couple of Christmas songs for us. We then had a farewell service and party for Fernando, a student who had been in the church for six years. He just received his Ph.D. last week and flew back to his home country of Panama a few days later. We will really miss him.

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Birth Announcement


Why did we name him "Zacharie Christian"?

Zacharie is the French form of the Prophet Zechariah and the priest Zacharias. Being the father of John the Baptist, he plays an important role in the nativity story which we celebrate at this time of year. More importantly, his name means “God remembers,” and Zacharias stands as a testimony (even through his imperfection) of God fulfilling His promises in response to His peoples’ prayers. There is a good sermon by Layton Talbert preached at Cleveland Park Bible Church (“Providence and Prayer”, available on sermonaudio.com) that made this meaningful to us.

Christian is a name we have like for quite some time. It is very French and also very, what can we say, Christian. The French name book says it once was a genuine statement of one’s faith. In the first century, believers in Antioch were dubbed "Christians" by unbelievers because of their constant verbal witness to Jesus Christ. The name also reminds us of the character in Pilgrim’s Progress, in whose steps we hope our son will follow along the same journey.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Zacharie Christian Bixby


Zacharie Christian Bixby was born on December 16 at 1:09am. He arrived, by God’s grace, safely and in good health, less than 20 minutes after we arrived at the hospital. He was born in a regular hospital bed before they had time to wheel Ruth down to the birthing room, before the doctor arrived, and yes, before the midwife had time to put on her gloves.

Christian is a name we have like for quite some time. It is very French and also very, what can I say, Christian. The French name book says it once was a genuine statement of a family's faith faith. We want it to be such for ours. It also reminds us of the character in Pilgrim’s Progress, who we hope our son will follow in the same journey.

Zacharie is the French form of the Prophet Zechariah and the priest Zacharias. Being the father of John the Baptist, he plays an important role in the nativity story which we celebrate at this time of year. More importantly, his name means “God remembers,” and he stands as a testimony (even through his imperfection) of God fulfilling His promises in response to His peoples’ prayers. There is a good sermon by Layton Talbert that he preached at CPBC (“Providence and Prayer” available on sermonaudio.com) that made this meaningful to us.

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Our Student Christmas Party



We had a great time last night with our students and nine first-time visitors, plus several others who have come once or twice but not often. We were all pleasantly surprised by the turnout (41 in all), and grateful to the Lord for the evangelistic opportunity. We learned that for at least a couple of these visitors, it may have been their first-ever exposure to the Gospel. Several of the students of our church demonstrated their servants' hearts by the work they put into the meal and the other preparations. Please pray that God would allow the contacts we made last night to blossom into further Gospel opportunities.


Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Orchestra Practice

For the last few weeks, Ruth has been leading a small orchestra in preparation for Christmas. We may not be the biggest or the best, but it has been a way to improve the talents God has blessed us with and use them for His glory.

Christmas Ladies' Meeting


Last Saturday, the ladies enjoyed a special Christmas Bible study and fellowship. We thank God for the ladies here who have a genuine desire to grow in godliness.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Hospitality

We've been enjoying living in my parents home that sits on the floor above the church auditorium. The excellent location and spacious accommodations make it ideal for hosting people in the home. Here are a few friends that we've been able to have in our home recently.

Thanksgiving
Since we had school as usual on Thanksgiving day, we invited some friends over on the day before for a Thanksgiving feast. Nine months of pregnancy and a morning full of classes did not prevent Ruth from spreading out a feast. Present were friends from France, Germany, Belgium and Canada. The girl on the chair had been hit the day before (while riding her bike). She was thrown onto the hood of the car and then onto the windshield which she broke. Though she had no broken bones, she had a lot of sore muscles. We all had a lot for which to give thanks.



The Christmas Season
Ruth and the children had another mom and her children from the church come over Wednesday afternoon to help them decorate the Christmas tree. I set it up for them, but then had to leave before the party got under way. The children had fun. However, the adults had to come back later and rearrange things a bit to fit their own sense of symmetry!



Puerto Rican Dinner
Tonight we had the mother of one of Micaiah's classmates over for supper. We pick up her son once a week from school and help him with his homework. She came to say thank you by fixing us a traditional meal from her homeland. Though I was somewhat skeptical beforehand, I can honestly say that this was the first time I've genuinely enjoyed eating plantains. Even our children were sold on them: "They taste like french fries!"





May God help us all to make our homes not only a place to turn inward as a shelter from the evil world, but a center from which to minister outward.